Self-harming is hurting yourself on purpose. It is often a way a way of coping with or expressing overwhelming emotional distress. If you are unable to express these feelings, you may feel that cutting or burning yourself or turning to drugs or alcohol is the only solution.

Who can I talk to?

Self-harming will only ever be a temporary solution to the emotions you are feeling.

Please talk to someone about your feelings. Your doctor, a school nurse or a trusted adult can help you find the right person to speak to. You can also talk to your school counsellor or mentor for further support.

  • Text your school nurse - for friendly, helpful and confidential advice, text your school nurse on 07507 329 600
  • The Lowdown offers self-harm advice and support for young people in Northamptonshire
  • Time2Talk offer self-harm counselling support for young people in Daventry and Towcester.
  • The National self-harm network is a survivor led organisation that campaigns for the rights and understanding of people who self-harm
  • Papyrus provide confidential help and advice to young people to prevent suicide
  • Help and support from the NHS
  • Calm Harm - The Calm Harm App provides tasks that help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm. You can add your own tasks too and it’s completely private and password protected

How can I prevent these feelings?

There a number of alternatives you can try instead of self-harm including:
  • Put an elastic band on your wrist or arm and snap it when you feel like cutting yourself
  • Write your feelings down somewhere that only you can see
  • Exercise – go for a run or walk. Releasing energy can help reduce feelings of anxiety
  • Rub ice on the skin where you might usually cut
  • Find a private space and yell or scream at the top of your lungs
  • Try relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation. These can help you get control of your feelings.
  • Use a red pen to draw on your body